yep, aparently that was it .... the software seemed to have missed that I actually opebned that missed call ... I went back, marked it unopened (which produced the missed message envelope icon), marked it closed ... and the phone icon went away as did the missed message envelope .... weird. thanks for the help though!
I was very close to sending my other bberry back no nextel as they couldn't fix it...but since then I've replaced my bberry and now the phone icon is back...It really annoys me, I guess its yet another OCD...I've checked the missed calls log, etc and the icon won't go away...